SECRETS TO RELATIONSHIPS

By Prince Hotor Kazi

LOVE, TRUST & RESPECT


One of the bases for most claimed relationships is centered on love, more often this concept has been mis-conceptualize with other elements of relationship. Love cannot occur in isolation and as such the required qualification for someone to actually feel love for another is very much an issue.

Most often than not, couples or loved birds who were currently immeasurably in love with each other could fall apart easily if close attention is not paid to the reason they were feeling that way before. This means that to every thing that has to do with interactions between man, there is time validity attached to it. Time here does not necessarily mean measure of the occurrence of an event but has to do with  essence to which the longevity and intensity of the reason to which brought the two parties together.

Love is actually needed in every relationship, even though people can be in relationships successfully without feeling love for each other, it does not disprove the essence of the existence of love in one. To every successful relationship there is a maximum level of coherence, understanding and personal acceptance of situations going in and around the so called relationship.

Understanding together with coherence and personal acceptance in every relationship is an element of trust and respect beyond any external force. Trust issues are problems because even if there is prove that so called victim accused is vindicated by prove, acceptance becomes a problem because an impression from external factors have made it so. People use to say that if you love me you will trust me. I vehemently disagree with this philosophy because the existence of pure love is not the guarantee for trust. Trust comes in when partners refuse to allow external factors plunge into their judgement making them feel the other is either cheating or making fool of them. Love itself is a crazy adventure because it is that which can  affect your vision into seeing reality.

Love and trust are separate entities even though one cannot exist without the other. The lasting nature of love is such that it needs trust to keep it going, without trust love will collapse, love leans for support from trust when trying times come. When external forces strike, love alone cannot sustain itself. Because at that moment, the pain sustained cannot be absorbed by love, love is too fragile to contain such pain and such invidious situations that comes with challenging relationships. Love is ultimate yes! But without trust love alone cant take you through.

Simply put, to trust means having unconditional love, having uncountable reasons to believe and have some level of assurance in your partner and in a long run, having hope for the longevity and change in events for the better.

Someone may decide to quote that the bible speaks against putting your trust in man. Now this issue is of different understanding.....AND I QUOTE "CURSE BE ON THE MAN THAT PUTS HIS TRUST IN ANOTHER MAN" this biblical allusion can be explain accordingly. Now there is FAITH and there is TRUST. To have faith means to believe that someone or something will happen and you see every disadvantage to be a gateway to glory. Now man on earth can never provide you with any reason for you to faith in them because man is gullible and fallible. On the other hand the concept of trust is not of infallibility but of forgiveness and the assurance of the genuineness of ones plea for forgiveness and of the assertion that man is not perfect. The bible speaks very emotionally about the need to love, wont it be so confusing for the same bible to speak against trusting one another when the real meaning of trust is having reason and meaning to continue to love one another. Definitely the word of God does not contradicts itself. To answer this confusion, the main idea was not to put faith in man and not the ordinary trust. You can only have faith in  an infallible, perfect being which is God.

Respect as always said is earned and thus you need to work towards it. Respect is normally induced in a relationship. It is normally not worked for independently, it is secreted by other platforms in check and up running. Respects finds it way in to a relationship when love and trust are in order and are running smoothly.